"Why did I do that? I am never going to do this again!" The echo runs through the mind of many a man today who started out (often as a boy) with a curiosity about porn only to find himself years later caught up looking at it again and again. Feeling crappy afterward, you find yourself drawn uncontrollably to it again, later that night or tomorrow. Perhaps you are tired of this treadmill and the resulting lousy feelings. Maybe your wife/girlfriend has caught you and is "suggesting" that you get some help? Whatever your reasons, Restoring Hope is here to help.

If you have ever told yourself that you were not going to look again, and you have, then you may want to get some outside help to figure out how to stop for good. Some call it an addiction and it can be much like that for many men. The processes in the brain that fire off when looking at porn are well documented. The chemical reactions are very similar to that of drugs and the same addictive process that happens with drugs happens with porn. I bet the first pictures you looked at are tame compared to the amount and the graphicness you need to become as aroused today. When does it stop? There is hope; men are getting help and getting their life back.

Do the practical stuff - and go further! We can discuss how you can take practical external steps to help you control the situation. For instance, it is good to have the home computer in a public place; to put controls (blocks) on the computer, to have software that tracks your movements and sends a report to a trusted ally. These are good and helpful steps; do them!

But there is more to gaining true freedom than only shooting at those external behaviors.

You want to be free from the compulsion and that is where our work together can be of benefit. Together we can find the reasons why this is such a draw for you and work to fix those ways of thinking that are affecting your life. Why porn and not drugs? gambling? alcohol? or food? There are other men for whom those activities have an unstoppable draw, but for you it is porn. How come?

Contact me and let's find out together - then change how you think about it!